Public displays of affection
Sunday, June 04, 2006



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A Friend sent me the picture above which is apparently causing a huge fuss in the arabic world.. its a singer named asalah kissing her husband on a tv show.. and yes you read right her HUSBAND !!

i really don't see what the big deal was.. i mean sure it might have been an unexpected move from her but he's her husband for god's sake.. and so a discussion of public displays of affection started between me and my friend.

I talked about how when i was in london last week i kept looking at the couples in the underground hugging, holding hands, kissing and wishing that i could do that with my husband in public. its not like i will be all over him all the time, but at least its an option.. sometimes inadvertently i would touch his cheek or smooth out his hair when we are out and then we would be looking around wondering if someone saw it.

even though he is my husband but we were taught from a young age that this is "3aib" and not acceptable. but its those small things that keeps the spark between a couple amongst other factors.. being natural and spontaneous is better than trying to control urself all the time, at least in my book.

My friend agreed that it's nice to be able to display this kind of affection in public but we disagreed on the extent.. kissing was a no to her and to me well.. i was a little more undecided.. for the moment though i would be happy if i can at least hug my husband in public and not feel awkward about it.

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14 comment(s):

Well Well Mistiqoooooooooooooooooooooo
,, ok guys i am that freind with whom she disagreed on the the extent of this affection showing..

Well i feel even a kiss is ok if it is fast and like 3afawee but i feel its a bit not ok for others to stand and kiss a proper full kiss for donno how many mnts or seconds!
well main thng i feel there shoudl be a boundry or limit to this affection showing!
else one can do anythng and say haaay we are husboo and wife! IMAGIN!

but yaa i was like O_O that they made this fuss about some1 who is a singer! ya3ni she touched or hugged other male during her video clips and that was ok! acceptable! but kissing her Hussboo was a NO noo! WHY?
well i tell u WHY! coz we r in east! Arabs! where they just want to have sth to talk about! they neva get tired of gossiping, falming, or talking about each other! Talk Talk and Talk! and DO NOTHING :)

So grl WELCOME BACK ;)

heheh

By Blogger FerreroRoche, at 1:28 PM  

I think public displays of affection (when not over done- like making out is a bit gross) are sweet.

My dad used to be very rigid about these things but he's loosened up a lot, I've noticed sometimes one of my parents will be walking with their hand on the others' back or once in awhile give eachother a side embrace.

I don't see why couples should pretend they are strangers outside,(to the extent where they won't touch eachother at all!) honestly it suggests a cold marriage to me :os

By Blogger Samyah, at 2:31 PM  

I am WITH public displays of affection.. It's cute!

I have friends who are boyfriend girlfriend and they VERY WELL show their affection freely in public! LOL
Okay.. I don't want that! But.. when it's your husband..it should be OKAY to do all that in public.. hold hand, a hug, a kiss on the cheek, even peck on the lips.. not a slobbery one ofcourse, people would just tell you to get a room.. lol 'sigh'

I know when I get married, there won't be anything stopping me from doing all that in public.. When you're with your husband, the world around you would seize to exist! Oh who cares what people say..

As for Asala in the above photo.. I suppose it's a big deal because this is her second husband and well.. the first one wasn't much to look at..
Oef.. I wonder if HE saw that! Yikes!

By Blogger Blind Melon, at 5:00 PM  

I am aginst it, it just not right .. it ok to hold hands, sit close to each other in the beach .. but kiss and hug in public .. dont know its just not right .. its something very private and should be kept private.

and like what Oracle said, 7aya2 is part of our religion and we should keep it.. i dont think a couple of kisses in public would affect the marraige being alive or not!

By Blogger Arabian Princess, at 5:50 PM  

I agree with AP showing affection in public doesnt mean that things are alive between a couple. To me what this singer did is all about publicity.

By Blogger Tia, at 11:19 PM  

True she might have done it for publicity but i don't think there is anything wrong with displaying affection in public.. but french kissing !! hmm i wouldn't like to share that in public.. but holding hands, hugging, a kiss on the cheek i don't see anything wrong with that..

its not about keeping the marriage alive with these things but if its something u feel like doing then i don't see why not.. you shouldn't feel ashamed of doing so.

By Blogger Mystique, at 9:56 AM  

show affection in private and become statues in public?

I don't believe showing affection to your partner in front of people is anything to be ashamed of as long as it's within the range of showable things. otherwise it's all to his own and to what makes them comfortable...I'd let it be since it doesn't harm me... but I personally wouldn't like my partner to act like a total stranger in front of people unless he's ashamed to admit I'm his wife...lol...

so I'm for showing affection :D

By Blogger TripleTee, at 4:26 PM  

lol Tee.. shatra! This is what I would think.. Imagine.. just imagine if I tried holding his hand and he let go or shoved my hand away saying "sshh 3ieb fe nas" :s wtf?
So what if there are people around! Are you ashamed I'm your wife?? Don't you want to be seen with me? Don't you want people to know we're together? I wanna a divooorce! :p

Well.. Not that dramatic.. But I would pick a fight :)

By Blogger Blind Melon, at 6:17 PM  

The new guy isnt the director Tariq Al Eryan or whatever his name?!
This is really silly! I guess she is trying to make her ex-husband jealous!


Anyways, I see kissing/hugging in public is wrong, its like me giving the people a free scene, the some will wait for these scenes in movies :p

By Blogger NiGhTFaCe, at 5:34 AM  

kissing ok i get..but hugging wrong? i think i would die if i can't hug my husband in public :P

By Blogger Mystique, at 4:21 PM  

pull him round the corner... hug him then push him back to the crowd again :p
Keep doing that until he says: FINE!!... just do it in public instead of pulling me around all the time :p

that's technique # 1. :XD:

By Blogger TripleTee, at 3:13 PM  

lol triple tee.. i don't hesitate to show my husband affection in public even if he does get embarrassed by it in a very cute way.. actually sometimes i do it on purpose just to rattle him :P

By Blogger Mystique, at 10:05 AM  

Hugging : okay
Holding hands: Okay
Peck on the lips : Okay
Peck on the cheeks : Okay.
French Kissing: Not Okay.
Anything more : Not Okay.

If he is your husband, I don't see why you can't be a lil physical in public. Abeh 7lalkum!

By Blogger Lym, at 10:41 PM  

that is a very strange topic you guys are talking about.

i can't add anything here.. Oracle did all the work here and i am glad that we are on the same side.

Can't you hug your husband/wife at home?? do you have to show it in front of the public?

you don't have to display it in public. do it at home.

when both man and woman shows their affection to each other in public (UK experience), we (Arab) start STARING at them like hawks... we treat them as a pimp with his slut (excuse the language).

i think we should stop immitating society and stick to what we have. after all we have a perfect system.

By Blogger Det. Conan, at 9:03 AM  

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