Disaster party!

Wednesday, January 17, 2007

Yesterday was my cousin's engagement party (father's brother's son).

I got a call on Friday inviting me to the engagement.. and when i asked where it was.. i was told to go to this hall.. i was like OK.. so yesterday i passed by my mother and sister and we went to hall..

as we entered the hall we noticed we are the only people from my father's family who are there.. THE ONLY PEOPLE... all the people there were from the bride's side.. apparently my father's family gathered at my uncle's house and they all entered together with the gifts etc..

so there they are all of them entering together and me and my mother were sitting there like idiots.. i felt so embarrassed and angry.. i told my mother let's leave.. she was like no wait.. of course my mother being the blunt person she is.. went and berated them for not telling us.. and of course everyone was like " oh we only found out by coincidence to go there" yeah right.. they ALL found out by coincidence.. i guessed they thought we are stupid..

so we stayed but i was pissed off ,, i just sat there waiting for the whole thing to finish.. not to mention my mother gave me a lecture on what i wearing as she felt it was not appropriate..

when the groom came in ,, AGAIN they called everyone to go to the door to bring him in.. EXCEPT US.. and i took out my keys this time and told my mother let's go.. but nope she said let's stay.. so i kept thinking to myself .. if only i had came alone.. i would have been home with my husband and son now.. my husband who respects me and loves me.. not my supposed family who treat me like a stranger..

so now i am sitting there boiling inside.. and dinner time came.. i told my mother i am not hungry.. she said.. oh u must feel embarrassed to walk around (because of my clothes) and i just kept quiet.. i mean nothing could get worse than this..

finally thankfully my mother agreed to leave after dinner and i went home.. i was so upset i didn't even talk to my husband or anything.. i just went and slept..

that's the last family social gathering i will be attending for a while..

| 11 comment(s)

Household disasters

Tuesday, January 16, 2007

I think i am going insane.. ok let me rephrase I KNOW i am going insane !!

so for the past month there has been a series of maintenence disasters at my house and i am going mad.. let's start at the beginning

1) our bathroom shower stall: so apparently when we got married and refurbished the bathroom.. no one told us that fibre glass shower stalls are crap.. they peel in a disgusting way and well they break.. so a few weeks ago i noticed that water is leaking onto the outside wall of the bathroom.. ( onto the NEWLY painted wall i may add).. so i was like.. the bathroom is new.. the pipes are new what's going on.. and i figured it must be leaking from under the shower stall.. the leakage reached the guest bathroom downstairs.. water was dripping from that ceiling !!

so we replaced the shower stall with tiles... hotel style.. and now everything is ok.. we still need to repaint the wall and the ceiling as the plumber said it will take at least a month to dry out..

2) While me and husband were in ruwi buying tiles etc for the bathroom problem.. our housemaid calls in a panic.. saying " i was sitting with adham (my son) watching tv when suddenly i hear this loud POOF and then the lights went out" ... ahhh so what is the explanation? the flexible heater pipes in the kitchen burst and water flooded the bathroom.. since the heater was switched on an electric shock occurred. Oh and that's not all

while the maid was trying to switch on the electricity from the main switch .. she broke the lever.. so there complete darkness and flooding water.. just great..

anyways we got that fixed the same day..

3) ahh so now its last friday.. me my husband and adham are visiting my husband's relatives when the maid calls again... so i think ,, she never calls ,, this can't be good.. she says " i was vaccumming when i heard a loud BOOOM (yes she loves the sound effects)" ,, now what i think to myself.. she said one of the kitchen cupboards fell onto the floor and all our crytsl glasses ,, bowls etc u name it.. totall crushed.. !! so you think how did that happen? apparently the wood cupboard took in water from problem number 2 and the wood just shattered.. 20 yr old cupboard after all.

we still haven't gotten around to fixing that... carpenter is coming today

4) whatt? its not over yet? .. u would have thought so .. but nooooo.. fate had something else in store for us.. so we are all asleep.. its 5 am.. when this time me and my husband hear a loud crash.. i figure.. there goes another cupboard... nope i was wroooonggg....

so we go down to inspect and we find one of the NEWLY installed lights on the floor.. the whole thing just fell screws and all.. apparently the holes were too big according to my husband.. so i say why now though? the house maid in all her wisdom says.. the banging in the bathroom upstairs when we fixed the shower issue must have caused the screws to be displaced !!!

so there you have it ..

i told my husband.. one more and i go to ibn sina..

| 4 comment(s)

The Marriage Question

Monday, January 08, 2007

as usual with the beginning of every year we hear people talking about new year resolutions and their confidence that THIS year will be different from the others etc etc.

From my school gang.. i am the only one married.. and when i sit with my old school gang,, i could feel various emotions flying around.. sometimes i feel depression.. sometimes resentment for their situations .. and mostly denial..

jokes fly around about how i am the 'sad' one because i am married and have a child and committments in that sense.. but you can feel the sadness within them.. the real loneliness they face.. it might not be about marriage itself..but rather about the companionship..

i am surrounded by people who are beginning to lose hope.. my school friends both male and female.. some female family members.. other friends.. i hear them say.. "if it happens then it happens".. or "i am not really thinking about it".. but its all a lie..

what kind of society would make a 26 - 28 year old person feel like a failure if they hadn't gotten married !! we are still young,, but we are forced to act old and feel old.. they kill the youth in us.. and its sad to see ...

These friends all realise that marriage is a responsibility.. which requires hard work and they accept that just so that they are not alone.. i can understand that..

the saddest thing i see though is when someone says to me that they have reached a stage where they cannot see themselves married.. because they have gotten so used to their independence and loneliness.. it's sad because it shows an unwillingness to compromise.. to touch and be touched to actually be with someone and experience this whole new life.. with the good and bad...

i've been thinking about this alot.. and i begin to understand the whole match making frenzy.. the weddings (basically a marriage market).. the whole internet chat forums issue.. everyone is just desperate.. desperate not to feel alone anymore..

| 4 comment(s)